UnEqually Yoke In Relationships

What does the title mean? There is a lot of confusion regarding this subject, but I am here today to put in my 2 cents. There are six areas in your life that you must have a balance. Everyone is stronger in one area or another. The term has nothing to do with Religion in this setting. The six areas of your life are 1. Financial and Career 2. Health and Physical 3. Educational and Personal Self improvement 4. Home and Family 5. Spiritual 6. Friends and Social. Every one is lacking in one or more of these areas. When you are not equal in the areas of your life, that is the seed of a bad relationship. The paradox is, we are normally attracted to someone that has it together in an area where we are weak. Humans admire and seek that in another person that our perception says, they can help me get to where they are. (More tomorrow, this will be the subject for the week, comments are welcomed).

Needy VS I need you to do this

We spoke a few days ago about a man needs to be needed. However men do not want, like or are attracted to emotionally needy women. What constitutes a needy woman, calling more than 2 times a day, jealously, spying, checking his phone, etc. among other things. Another thing that pisses me off, (and most men) is when a woman tells me, you know what you did, you know why I am upset. Let's clarify this, when a man says he does not know why you are upset, he means it. IF YOU WANT A MAN TO KNOW WHAT IS WRONG, TELL HIM, IF YOU WANT SOMETHING ASK HIM DIRECTLY. Most men do not respond to hints. To elaborate on the last post about complaining (venting) when you complain to a man, he thinks you want him to fix it, thats what we do, then you get upset that he wants to fix it when all you want him to do is listen, Women listen, Men fix things. Please sign up for the weekly news letter, I am giving a tremendous gift, a gift that has the potential to change every aspect of your life, I sold this book a while ago for $99.00, yours free. If you did not sign up, close this and come back in, the pop down will appear allowing you to sign up. Comments are welcome.

What Men Dislike The Most About Women

This is one thing that turns all men off, the only reason a man will, listen to this is he wants sex from you, and if you question him, he was not really listening. Men hate complaining, in all of it's forms. Women call it venting, men call it complaining. If you must complain (vent) call one of your girlfriends or your male girlfriend.

Good Man or a Project

After two months, due to popular demand I am bringing back relationship information, I thought no one was reading but due to multiple demands I will start posting again.

What do you Women really want, do you want a good man, or do you want a project? I am completely convinced women want a Project. Every woman that does not have a man, wants a man she can mold and make the way she wants. Those of you that have a good man, are not happy and want something different. Human nature is we want what we don't have. You say you are a great catch, got it going on, pretty, sexy, fine, intelligent, independent. You want a man that is this, has that, looks like this! The question I have is "what would he want with you"? Biggest Secret I have ever written. ARE YOU READY. A man is not that attracted to an independent woman, a man needs to be needed. Not necessarily financially but he needs to know you need him. Test this if you will. If you can do everything yourself then all you need is maybe sex, and that is what you will get. You will complain, all he wants is sex, that is the only option you are giving him. Try this, baby something is wrong with my car, can you check it, the door won't close, or anything else, holla, let me know how this works.

The Woman

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Are You In a Relationship or a Convienceship

Too many people sell themselves short. If you accept a loveless relationship because of (the kids, my standard of living, been there so long) or any other lame excuse. This life is short you got to live to the end of the day everyday. Take an accessment of your life. You deserve love and happiness.

Coming soon interview with Poet, author, motivational coach Frantonia Pollins.

Creating Attraction Part-4, Initial Attraction, Maintaining Attraction

Have you ever met someone, you really liked then a month down the road you said" what the hell was I thinking"? We all have, what happened? The other person was on their best behavior, the true self had not been shown, once you saw the true self you said, this is not for me. Because of the attraction factor, that person actually had a chance, you liked what you saw, then the real factors of a relationship came into play. My Grand Ma always said, "the same things you do to get her (him), is the same thing you gonna have to keep doing to keep them. Go to the blog, join the mailing list, coming soon an interview with, Speaker, Poet, Author, Frantonia Pollins on the release of her new book "Something To Ponder", this will be a internet radio program, Date coming soon.

Creating Attraction Part-3, Taking Control

Do you know how many women would love for a man to take control that they trust, respect and know that things would be handled, everyone of them. When it comes to my woman’s car maintenance, upkeep, tires, and things most women are just not that good at doing, I am on it. How can I say I love a woman and I drive a nice car and she drives a bucket, I make sure she won’t break down in the middle of the night. Being a man means stepping up to the plate, you are not a wussy nor Pussified by making sure your woman is safe, a women wants you to make her feel safe. That is why she chose you; it is your job and duty;

Creating Attraction Part 2

Guys, one of the worse things you can do is become a Male-Girlfriend. If you are interested in a woman, do not allow her to complain or vent to you, simply tell her to call one of her girlfriends. She may get angry in the short term but it pays dividends in the long run. Once you become a Male-Girlfriend, it is practically no recovery from this, a woman that you are interested in is not attracted to her Male-Girlfriends. It is human nature to want what you can't get, never be too eager, call too much, I suggest 1 phone call to her every time she calls you 2 or 3 times, keep the calls short. Never answer too many of her questions (but that's another topic) keep her curosity computer lacking, more next time. Coming soon the book.

Straight From The Barber Shop

Creating Attraction

Here is a question, which of these is more attractive to you Ladies. A guy asks you for a date, then he asks you what do you want to do, where do you want to go? Shows up without a plan and expects you to decide everything.

On the other hand a guy asks you for a date, tells you he will pick you up at 7 P.M. tells you be ready at 7 not 7:30. Tells you to dress warm, picks you up, takes you to an outdoor concert, brings a food basket, with fruit, wine, cheese, etc. then after the concert takes you out for a night cap.

Ladies, which guy are you most likely to be attracted to.

Are You Truely Ready For Real Love

Here is the situation. You meet this really nice Guy or Girl, they are sweet, polite, nice and you know that they probably would be good for you, just one problem, you FEEL NO ATTRACTION FOR THEM. Attraction is actually not a choice, it is a biological, chemical reaction. We continue to let good Men and Women get away because we do not feel attraction, what is the CURE.

The Cure is learn how to create attraction in the opposite sex, yes it can be learned, for the next week I am going to focus on creating attraction. I don't care if you agree or not, all I am asking is try the exercises that are given to you, see what happens. Become a Fan Please.

Things Women Really Like About Most Men

I have concentrated mostly on the Ladies because it is so much they need to know about us men. Today I am gonna talk to the men. This is what first attracts a Woman. Super Hygiene, good smelling, clean fingernails, polished shoes, clean cloths, nice breath. Women are completely turned off by bad body odor. See may look at you and say wow, then she smells you and runs. Dress nicely, do not let your Mom, Sister or Aunt dress you, create your own style, do not try to look like everyone else, baggy cloths, hanging off of your butt. If you are not that attractive it is vital for you to master the above items, (big secret, if you master these Items, you will attract women). Be confident and do not make excuses for anything, more next time.

The Way It Starts Is The Way It Ends

Ok, you meet this fantastic Guy, so far he is everything you ever wanted, you do not want to mess this up. He starts making comments that make you uncomfortable so you.....

Tolerate this behavior, what is the message you are sending to him? The message is plain and simple, it is OK by you. You start to date and this behavior starts to drive you crazy, you then mention this to him and he refuses to change and says you are trippin. If you do not make your expectations known early on, that is the way it is going to be. Better to nip bad behavior or comments in the bud immediately, that sets you apart from other women, remember, you don't give a damn if you hurt his feelings, believe it or not that makes you more attractive to a man.

4 Things That Men Can't Resist In A Woman

Ok, we will talk about what a man finds attractive in a Woman. Master these 4 things and you will have your pick of just about any man.

1. Be Classy, and have a don't give a damn attitude, walk slow, talk slow, be yourself, if something is funny, laugh, if something is not don't. If he does something you do not like let him know.

2. Keep your emotions in check, a man does not want to hear venting, to us that is the seed of Drama, call your girlfriend to vent, or complain (they both are the same to a man).

3. Never compromise your true likes and dislikes, don't do something you hate, just to please a man.

4. Have a life, be busy all of the time, when a man calls you tell him you have maybe, next weekend to kick it with him if he has something exciting planned.

You may think this is being a bitch, try it, see what I am talking about.

Norris

The Way Men Think

OK, my players card will be revoke for this information I am about to share.

Have you ever met a man that you really liked? Dated a few times, and he just stops calling? Would you like to know why? You became a different person, he percieved you as too needy, you tried too hard, he got turned off. How to solve that! Women need to understand all they have to do is be themselves, treat the man they want as if he is just one of their guy friends, also, do not be too available. Even though your heart screams, yes, I want him and I want to show him I am the one he needs, don't do it. More next time.